Wayne Arthur Cole, Fredericksburg, VA
When I met Wayne, we were both married to other people… Our relationship started as a lie. I am Wayne’s second wife (and we are STILL married). His first wife and I are friends and she tells me that he lied a lot and that he had several extramarital affairs before I met him. Since we were married in 1993, Wayne has lied to me a lot and has had several extramarital affairs. Wayne has left me for other women five times, the last time in September of 2009. He swore there was nobody else, and he continued trying to make me think nothing was wrong with our relationship until he surprised me completely and moved out. Several months later, I found out he had been seeing someone and that he had left me for her. We lived together for two years while that affair was going on and I never knew because he lied to make me think everything was okay. After we separated and I found out about that, I tried to warn that girl when I found out how to get ahold of her, but she wouldn’t listen. It angered me to my inner core that Wayne was lying to both of us and that she believed him. She even told me details and provided emails to me about their affair and places they had been together (even out of town on business trips, telling me he loved her while she was standing by the phone). Wayne even brought her into OUR marital home while I was out of town with OUR son and had sex with her in OUR bed and in front of OUR fireplace and in OUR backyard. After four years, Wayne’s girlfriend finally broke up with him for good due to all of his lies and because he kept deceiving her. That took a lot of work on my part because I just couldn’t let her believe his lies – it was wrong. Wayne didn’t deserve to be happy because of the lies he was telling her. During their relationship, Wayne led me on, kept me as his back-up plan, just in case his relationship with her did not work out – I would talk to him, but knew I was not interested. In the end, he was ready and willing to come back to me because he was tired of being alone since she would not get back together with him. That is how I ended that relationship for good. I didn’t want him, I met the man of my dreams after Wayne left me. I still love Wayne, but he is not worthy of me or my love. Wayne has started every relationship in his life with lies. Wayne and I are not yet divorced, but I have talked to his ex-girlfriend who says that she has helped to bring Wayne’s dishonesty to the attention of two of the women he has dated since her. He has represented to women that he dates that he is divorced, but we are not divorced. He has not properly represented his numerous affairs in both of his two marriages. He represents to women he wants to date that he is a truly honest person, but he is NOT. Wayne is a chronic liar and does not deserve to be loved because he does not know how to love honestly. My recommendation to you is to run the other way if he contacts you or tries to date you. He will make plans with you that he doesn’t really mean even though he hardly knows you. He will tell you that he loves you when he truly does not love you and he does not even know what love is. Wayne will will tell you that he loves you just to have sex with you. Wayne will lie to you about everything, but mostly his feelings. He is a dishonest and selfish man who does not like to be alone. If Wayne doesn’t really like you that much, but he has nobody else, he will string you along and lead you on and USE YOU until he finds something better and then he will send you an email to break up with you. This man has no heart. This man has no conscience. He is a selfish man, a greedy pig and he will use you and throw you away just as soon as he finds something better. Run, girls, run!!!