“SAM” BASSAM ELDWAK
This guy is a charmer and a FAKE, He’s a liar/player/cheater. He will lead everyone to believe he’s a real nice, fun guy. He will make you laugh, open doors for you, carry things for you, drive you places, talk sweet and cuddle every night. He does the same with any girl he wants something from! He married me. 1 month later, I learned he was cheating on me with numerous women and prostitutes since the day we met and during our engagement and after our marriage.. He was even planning to get married while he was engaged to me! Twice! Things had been suspicious and he denied everything until his friends finally told me of his affair with a girl. I was heart-broken and I kicked him out. He begged me for my forgiveness and promised to change. I learned he was taking extacy every week-end for 5 yrs. He promised to stop it, which he did and I was happy. Everything seemed great for awhile. Afterwards, there were many supicious things but I couldn’t prove anything and he always turned it around on me accusing me of not trusting him and being over-jealous and even said I was a psycho for suspecting him. He is very manipulative. He had an excuse for everything. The condoms I found in his bag,(he said his friend must’ve dropped it in his car then he stuck it in his bag) the telephone calls & msgs,(“Oh, she meant to send it to her fiance and she sent it to me by mistake cuz my name is Bassam and his name is Wassam”) B & W are not next to each other! He used my laptop and I found,sex chatting, porn (his excuse was that it’s better than really cheating.. (although he was planning to meet one of them in his chats). Again he promised to stop then even gave me all of his passwords. Then there was the womans hair tie I found on my vanity after he had sent me shopping with his son, which wasn’t there when I left and it wasn’t mine!.. Again I was crazy. 1 year no problems (I thought) but it seems he was just waiting til he got to the US visa. He kept pushing me to move back to the US. ( I had a great life & job in Saudi He was a poor Palestinian with a low salary. Even though it would mean I had to give up my great job and everything I had, I agreed to make a life together in the US. He had been fired from his job 6 months earlier and was offered another but refused to take it, so I worked and saved, even sold all my jewelry and things to move back to the US. He would check the mail 3 x a day for his green card. When it finally arrived, he hid it from me. (I later learned). He also freaked out when I opened his mail from his new bank account one time. Then he told me he lost his mailbox key and took mine. Suddenly he left me home all night and never answered his phone like he had done in the past and broke his promises. Next day I learned he went to a casino/night club with his friend and 2 other girls. He had lied to me at first about who he was with and why he didn’t answer or call, til the next day when I saw his chats on Facebook and a new “friend” was telling him what a great time she had with him the night before. We fought and he said he did nothing wrong. He got fired from his job again and found another. Then we had an argument over another issue of a girl in my apt with him while I was gone. I was furious. He then left me and sent me divorce papers the very next day! We were living in Seattle and he ran off to San Jose Ca. He left me with a big telephone bill in MY name from his overseas calls.. Our apt lease was up. We were supposed to rent another apt but it seems he took that money. I had to leave my job and move in with family in another state. He had enough money to rent another place, buy a plane ticket and another car. He left me with -0. Then I found that he had been cheating on me the entire time we were married even with clients from the gym where he worked and also the two times I or he had to travel (he spent his time on sex sites and going to night clubs and hitting on girls). He drained me financially and emotionally. His plan all along was just to use me til he got his Green Card. Can you beleive he’s free here in the USA and I can’t do anything about it! I was devastated and depressed for months and he didn’t give a damn. Now he’s someplace new where nobody knows his past. He was also married once before me and he also cheated on her. He left his son(who I cared for 2 yrs) in Saudi Arabia. Poor guy. We were supposed to bring him here after all the paperwork was done. Now he just left him there. He lies to people telling them that I kicked him out (then why did HE file for divorce), that he is dying to have a baby and I am Unable to have children (BIG LIE). He has a son who he deserted and he can’t even care for him. We were planning to have a baby last year until he changed his mind to wait til we moved to the US. I hope whoever he’s with now will find out the truth about him. I was a perfect wife in every way, a fitness trainer taking care of myself, have always been faithful and forgiving and I did everything for this guy. Looking back, I don’t know what the hell I was thinking. Red flags were everywhere. I forgave him 2 times. What a loser. He will never change. I’m so glad to be rid of him now, I just hope to warn other people about him before he fools them! He’s a manipulative sociopath and he LIES LIES LIES with tears in his eyes!
This post was submitted by renee.