Carl T. Pickel, Bremerton, WA, USA
Carl can be very sweet and charming. He is educated and fairly well-read so he can also be a pleasure to talk to. While he and I were together it seemed as if he was always doing things, some big and some small, to help other people out. These characteristics were some of the things that made it easy to love him those first few years. Also, the first four years we were together, I never, ever, not once, had any trust issues at all with him as far as infidelity goes. Our relationship was not perfect, very far from it, but to this day I sincerely do not believe he ever cheated on me or lied to me. He had his faults, most of them revolving around physical abuse. I never doubted, as flawed as he was, that he truly loved me and wanted to be with me to the exclusion of all others. At the time I believed that his anger and abuse issues were caused primarily by the dire financial straits he was in but now I know that this was merely wishful thinking and I am a fool to have ever given that man the benefit of a doubt. I am posting to this site in the hopes that, once the vicious co-bag skank he is now with is done with him, the next woman to consider having anything to do with him will value herself enough to check him out before becoming involved with him. No one deserves to go through the hell this sociopath son of a bitch has put me through!
Carl and I met in March of 2005. I felt there was instant chemistry and he acted as if he felt the same way. We could talk for hours and we spent a lot of time together, we lauged a lot and the sex was out of this world. After dating for about 8 months I moved in to his house with him and we lived together until September 17th of 2008. Again, to this day I absolutely do not believe he was ever unfaithful to me or dishonest with me. He was friends with two of his ex-girlfriends, both of whom I also came to know pretty well and considered friends. He could spend time alone or in mixed company with either of these two women and I never batted an eye, he never gave ma eny reason not to trust him during this time so I trusted him. I also trusted the two exes, they seemed like decent, likeable ladies and I enjoyed their company as well. When Carl and I did have problems these two ladies took my side and told him in no uncertain terms that he had no business putting his hands on me for any reason ever.
On September 17th, 2008, I left Carl and flew back to Louisiana. Despite his apologies after each incident, the physical abuse was getting worse and more frequent. I was afraid I would end up dead or maimed and he would wind up in prison. I still cared very much for him but I could see that if we continued to live together under those circumstances there was a good chance of something horrible happening and I didn’t want that for either of us. I lived in Louisiana for two years, working at an inpatient mental health hospital and enjoying spending time with family and friends. I stayed in contact with Carl, we spoke frequently and as I was working and he was not I frequently sent him money. Then, in the late spring/summer of 2010, he began making plans to sell his house. He said he expected to make quite a bit of money and started asking me about moving back to Bremerton to be with him. Over the months I (foolishly) allowed him to convince me that he had changed, he loved me, he missed me, all the problems he had with anger and being violent towards me were due to his fimnancial issues and since the sale of his home would take care of his money issues I should give him another chance. What a liar!!!!
The thing he never told me was that within a year of me leaving he had begun a relationship with a woman named T. J. (Tracey Jean) Crowley. T.J. is, for lack of better words, a crazy, hateful skanky bitch. As I found out later, she is well-known in Kitsap County (Washington State) for being a gambling and drug addict who victimizes men by moving in with them and accusing them of some sort of illegal activity. If her lies get them put in jail she ransacks their homes while they are locked up and steals anything of value she possibly can in the time she has to work with. Sometimes these men are guilty of what she accuses them of, sometimes not. Her accusations are never a sincere plea for help or based on a desire to get drugs and theives off the street, they are weapons she uses to screw people over and steal from them to feed her gambling and drug habits. She is a foul, horrible person with no conscience and absolutely no compassion for anyone who isn’t her. She homes in on single men, especially those who have just ended a relationship or are emotionally vulnerable in some other way. While Carl was calling me and talking to me about moving across the country to give him another chance, he was living with her and she was doing her level best to get him thrown in jail. I would think he would be desperate to get away from that but now I wonder.
Carl’s home sold in October of 2010 and within 48 hours of the sale being final and the money being despoited in his account he was on a plane to Louisiana. He spent almost a week with me, meeting my friends and family and buying supplies for the drive across the country. We arrived back in Bremerton on November 5th, 2010. At first it truly did seem that he had done A LOT of work on himself and I’m sure having a nice fat checking/savings account made it easy to be nice, at least for a minute. The thing was, Carl never told me ANYTHING about T.J. Crowley until we had been back in Bremerton a few days. NOT ONE WORD. I literally did not know that such a person existed until I had quit my job, packed up all my stuff, and moved across the country.
By February he was screwing her behind my back and, despite several deaths in my family over the spring & summer of 2011, he was doing everything possible to make my life a living hell. He would be gone for days and later weeks at a time. When he did come home he was either unpleasant or violent and always hateful, insulting, mean and uncaring. He said he wanted me to get a job but whenever I had interviews he would sabotage my efforts to go to them by disabling my truck and either being gone in his (and of course refusing to anser his phone or return my calls/texts) or simply refusing to let me drive his. When I would try to speak to him about my plans to leave him he would suddenly become all nice and remorseful and beg me “not to give up on him just yet.” All the while he was making plans to take EVERYTHING he possibly could from me. He wound up taking a play from T.J.’s book and trying to get a restraining order against me in August of 2011. The judge promptly threw it out as Carl could not refrain from verbally attacking me in open court and had no witness statements while I had a stack of witness statements from people who knew both Carl and T.J. and all stated that Carl was only serving me with a restraining order to get me out of our home so he could move T.J. in.
That’s not the whole story, he finally got what he wanted and I wound up homeless and penniless in winter in Washington State. The man is a sociopath, he is not capable of loving anyone. He is a liar, a cheater, he has absolutely no concept of honor or decency and any woman who becomes involved with him in any way for any time is taking her life and her sanity in her own hands. The minute T.J. finds out Carl has anything she wants (money, drugs, a place to live, etc) she will unhinge her jaw like a boa constrictor eating a piglet and suck his dick until he does what she wants and what she wants will ABSOLUTELY include totally and irrevocably fucking the life of any other woman he is with or interested in. STAY AWAY FROM HIM UNLESS YOU LIKE PAIN!!!!