Amanda Goodnow Topeka KS USA
Sometimes people do awful things that should not be allowed to pass. What Amanda Goodnow did to a friend of mine is one of these. She should not get away with what she has done without consequences. By exposing her lies, and embarrassing her by exposing the truth and her dirty laundry those consequences will hopefully come to pass. What I am posting may be mistaken for revenge for my friend, and there are some aspects of that, but my intent is that Amanda Goodnow does not get away with the awful things she has done.
He met Amanda Goodnow in Oct. 2011 on a Sunday for what should have been a one night stand, but unfortunately became something else. Both of them were drunk and like what became usual, her friend Nikki abandoned her. Luckily for Amanda he is the average nice guy, and he took care of Amanda.
Because of the age difference between them they agreed to be friends with benefits instead of a full relationship. According to Amanda, there was no way her mom or her dad, would accept him. The rules were that they would exclusively sleep with each other unless they found someone else they wanted to be with, and if they did, they would tell the other and end the sex part.
However Amanda did not live up to their agreement and was sleeping with another guy without telling him. He found out about her two-timing just after Thanksgiving and confronted her with it. At which point they ended any contact.
But she had left some clothes at his place and just before New Years he contacted her to ask her what she wanted him to do with them. She met him at Skinnys on New Years Eve day. And after talking things through they resumed their friends with benefits relationship that night.
That type of relationship continued until Sunday Feb 5th (Super Bowl) when Amanda told him that she loved him and wanted an exclusive relationship with him. Because he loved her he said he loved her too and agreed to not see anyone else. Amanda also told him on other occasions that she was not seeing anyone else, and that she expected the same of him. He was totally loyal to her and cut off all contact with other potential dates.
It turned out that he was the only one who lived up to the relationship she requested, there were several clues that he missed, that Amanda was probably cheating on him including a Sunday where he picked her up at a hotel when she claimed to have been with Nikki and Nikki’s boyfriend Tez, but they weren’t there.
To a conversation he overheard between Nikki and Amanda over Nikki coaching Amanda on how to 2time like she was doing between Tez and Kelly. Amanda also told him about times that Nikki would sleep with Kelly when Tez was out of town.
He also found himself constantly battling Amanda’s binge drinking, and bad influences from Amanda’s friends Nikki and Crystal. Including at least one instance of picking Amanda up from an apartment where Nikki and Crystal had taken her in an attempt to buy cocaine along with the marijuana that Nikki and Crystal used.
Amanda’s being a part of Nikki and Crystal’s drug use could have been devastating. Luckily he was there to get her away from that. However Amanda continued (and apparently still does) to have issues with binge drinking, on numerous occasions he had to pick her up and take care of her after nights of drinking with either Nikki or Crystal, or have to take care of her when she got drunk when out with him. Including taking her home early from watching the KU championship game even though he is a huge fan of KU.
He always tried to take care of her during situations like that, and not take advantage of her. Including many times where he would bring her to his place and put her to bed and not have sex with her when he could have. He loved Amanda and refused to treat her as just another sex partner.
On Tuesday Mar 6th, after meeting up with Amanda at Skinny’s she told him she was pregnant with his child. Somehow, even though she was on birth control, they had become pregnant. He told Amanda he would support her in any way with the pregnancy whether they had the child or abort it. But they only discussed the pregnancy briefly 2 times, and on the 2nd time she was leaning towards getting an abortion. Based on events it appears she did not know who the father really was.
He had hoped to be able to talk her out of getting abortion, he had no kids of his own, and he loved Amanda dearly, but sometime while her mom Angelic was out of town in New Mexico with her boyfriend Ron during the weekend of April 13th, Amanda got an abortion without telling him. He assumes either her friend Nikki or Crystal drove her.
A week later Amanda finally told him about the abortion and told him she needed a month of space to get herself back on track. She said that during that time she wasn’t seeing anybody else, wasn’t going to go to bars or drink. However a week after that he ran into her at Abigails getting drunk with Nikki, and later found from me because I was there after he left due to Nikki freaking out, that she went home with with a guy named Matt.
He later learned through one of Amanda’s friends that Amanda had met Matt in very early April, and that the abortion, and “space” were part of Amanda’s plan to try out Matt while stringing him along in case it didn’t work out. Fortunately he found out about Amanda and Matt early on.
He has tried to talk to Amanda to find out how she could treat him this way but all he has gotten is further attempts by her to string him along including texts where she apologizes and hopes that I can forgive her, why he doesn’t know, or paranoid drama for her friends benefit that he is stalking her. All we can figure is that she is a sociopath. For my part, all I know is that he was always there for her, truly loved her and do not deserve what she did to him. That is why I am posting this, she should not be able to get away with what she has done.
She should not have made him shut down his dating contacts while she continued to look for other partners, that was wrong and cruel, for when they ended, he was left with no one to turn to. If the pregnancy was really his, he should have been involved in the discussion and action taken with it, to shut him out of that proves she did not know who the father was. And lastly she should not have tried to string him along while she tried out Matt with her “space” BS. That’s 3 things she did that each individually are horrible to do to someone else, much less to do all 3.
My friend has gone through hurt, guilt, and now hatred of Amanda and what she has done, she should not get away with it, and this should serve as a warning to anyone who knows her or meets her. She is a pure sociopath, without conscience or care for others that cared for her.