Adam Tally, Midland, TX, United States

Honestly, if I went into full detail I would be typing a novel here.. So I’ll try to keep this as informative, but short as possible.

Adam Tally IS the worst boyfriend I have ever had. He was my first, I was so naive and trusting. It took me about three years to wise up and leave him. During that time I endured;

Literally countless times of being cheated on, lied to of course. He cheated on me with any girl who would have him. He lied to me about some of them (telling me she was his lesbian friend), some of THEM he lied to (telling her I was his younger sister).

He was maliciously manipulative. He would cheat on me with a girl WHILE he was on the phone with me (the other girl’s scorned SO emailed me her online journal and I read all about it.), rolled his eyes while he told me he loved me over the phone. Then the next day while we were together he’d drop hints about what he had been up to, just enough to make me wonder what he was talking about, but not enough for me to think anything near the truth (until I read the above mentioned journal of the Other Girl.)

He was abusive.
During several fights we had over his cheating, I would at one point be so offended I would say it was over and walk out towards the door, only for him to rush to the door first, grab my arm and throw me down back into the house. This happened a couple times. Once he punched me in the side breaking ribs (unsure of the extent, but it took about 3-4 months before I could cough or laugh without pain). Another time I woke up to him crying over me, he had slammed my head into the wall and knocked me unconscious. We started fighting again and I locked myself in his bathroom and called a guy friend to come and get me. We got in lots of fights.. only when I found out about another girl, and I normally had bruises on my arms from him grabbing me.

After we broke up he spread rumors to random people I didn’t know, but soon became familiar of, that I had broken his windshield, his mirrors, carved profanity on his car.. though I no longer knew what car he was driving.. This was years after we broke up. In turn, these friends of his saw me in public and scratched up my own car. If we ever saw each other in public I would go about my own business, he would start telling people “Pst.. That’s my ex-girlfriend… blah blah Crazy car stories..” The next time I went to that place, people who knew me would ask me what his problem was. They knew those stories sounded nothing like me.

I finally moved 6 hours away from that city, I have dated and about a year ago I found the perfect guy who treats me the way any girl should be treated.. but because of Adam, it makes me uncomfortable that my boyfriend is on good terms and still friends with his ex-girlfriend. Even though he has no history of bad behavior, and the ex-girlfriend seems like an alright girl, it’s a red flag to me, and by default I hate her and everything about her. On the rare occasion when we all (his friends, ex, her brother, etc) go out to a concert or something together, any interaction between them makes me uncomfortable.
My boyfriend doesn’t deserve that. He’s a good guy. It’s guys like my ex who make girls afraid of stupid things like this.

Anyone can change their behavior as they mature, I hope he gets over being such a worthless asshole, but just in case, please watch out for this guy and don’t give him so many chances like I did.