Finding Out The Truth About Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend
Sometimes The Truth About Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend Can Be Frustrating
Sometimes finding out the truth about your boyfriend or girlfriend can be frustrating. This is especially true if you discover things about his/her past that make you uncomfortable. The things that you uncover may make you completely reconsider whether or not you should stay with that person.
Boyfriend Has A Child (kid) That He Doesn’t Help Take Care Of
If you find out that your boyfriend of six months has a child in another state that he doesn’t help raise; you might be disgusted, especially if you are looking for a soul-mate that you will ultimately want to settle down and have kids with. It will call questions into your mind as to whether or not this individual will be a positive influence and aide in the raising of your own children. And under almost every single circumstance, your new concerns about your boyfriend are rightly justified.
Girlfriend Keeps Ex Boyfriends Around
If you find out that a lot of your girlfriends “friends” are actually ex boyfriends that she keeps around, you might start to reconsider your own value in her eyes. Why does she feel the need to stay in touch with several of her boyfriends after the relationship has ended? Most of the time, this is because she hasn’t fully detached her heart from that person, and still wants to maintain a “what if” sort of connection with them; almost like a back-up plan. This is never good, because often times the ex boyfriend has one of two agendas on his mind. Agenda 1 would be the same agenda that she has on her mind, and the other agenda is simply an attempt to keep her around for some sexual relations in the future once her guard is down. Either way, it’s, more than likely, a recipe for disaster.
Boyfriend Was Abusive In Past Relationships
This one is never good. You never want to find out that your boyfriend was abusive in past relationships. Often times, this is something that someone cannot overcome as an individual. When violence is a reasonable solution to someone in a “lover’s quarrel”, you can pretty much bet that violence will continue to be a solution for that person. If someone has a track record for violence, studies show that violence will continue to be an option for that individual.
Girlfriend Cheated On Her Last Few Boyfriends
When you find out that your girlfriend cheated on her last few boyfriends, you might want to seriously evaluate her actions while she’s been in the relationship with you. Don’t automatically assume that she’s cheated on you; however, look for the signs on whether or not the possibility exists. Odds are however, that if she’s cheated on the last few guys that she’s dated, then she probably has or will cheat on you as well. Cheating is detrimental to a relationship and no one wants to be a victim of a cheating lover.
In closing, you’ll want to consider this person as a whole before you make a decision about the present personality and actions of the person before deciding to break up with them based on their past actions and personalities. It’s not to say that they won’t necessarily commit the same actions against you that they have against others, however, you can’t know for a fact that they will continue with the same attitudes, personalities and actions just because of the way they conducted themselves in the past. Take everything into consideration before making your decision. And if you still aren’t sure, depending on what you discovered about your boyfriend or girlfriend, it may be reasonable to bring those things up to them and see what they have to say about those situations that you found out about.