Q&A: How do you report a soldier for cheating on their wife? Just found out my “boyfriend” has a wife in PR!
Question by Nancy M: How do you report a soldier for cheating on their wife? Just found out my “boyfriend” has a wife in PR!
I have dated this guy for four a long time. We travel with each other, devote lots of time together and today I located out he has a wife in an additional country. She most likely has no thought what he has completed. I want him turned in for infidelity. I would by no means have dated a married guy, I believe in honoring marriage. He fooled me and I never want him to do it to everyone else!
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I’m not sure, however he can be court martialed for adultery. You need to gather some evidence.
My name Spc.Perez what you have to do is called his company commander, and indicated this situation to him. This type of behavior is not tolerated in military. But you need to find out his Company and tel.
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Spec.Perez
Pictures of actual “insertion” are needed to prove adultery or admission of both parties involved ( I doubt he will admit it when his feet are put to the fire). If you know anyone in his chain of command call them up and tell them.
yeah you well need some evidence for a court marshaled for adultery.. but make shore that this is what you wont because it can get messy…..
Well, first you need to investigate the claim that he is married. Are they separated? Are they married only in a foreign country and not the US? You would be surprised, but the US does not recognize marriages from some other countries.
The military does not really pursue adultery charges anymore. They can be enforced as they are a violation of the Uniform Code of Military Justice (UCMJ) however, unless the individuals involved are high profile (Generals, etc) they will more than likely not be charged. You see, modern adultery is so common and the law is really so outdated that unless it brings a great discredit to the service, they do not enforce it.
What you can do is call his OMBUDSMAN, who is the civilian contact for spouses, etc of military members, and report it to her. She is obligated to inform the chain of command so they can investigate and take action if necessary.
How about just dropping him and walking away?
What would happen if he were a civilian? He wouldn’t be fired from his job. Don’t be so vindictive.
You should know the guy’s unit by now – call his commanding officer and report it. Truthfully though the military will probably do nothing. This kind of thing happens so much that it is really of little concern to the military unless it affects security or critical performance.
I understand that you are upset and hurt about the situation, but if he wasn’t in the military what would you do? They don’t do anything to civilians for adultery. By the way, if you were in the military you would be liable also for sleeping with a married man. Sorry for your situation but instead of being spiteful about the situation, why not try focusing on doing a better background check next time.
Good luck. Yes it may be against the UCMJ, but you will have no luck trying to turn him in as you have said. The military is not in the business of policing the bedrooms and private lives of the people serving our country. You can call the base and do whatever you want, but you will not get 10 seconds of ear time from anyone you may get to talk to. If the Army or the military in general actually stopped to listen to all of these drama stories we would never get our mission at hand accomplished. The military is NO different than the guys in the civilian world. Regular guys that are not in the Army cheat on their wives just as much as military guys do as do civilian and military woman. Look as this from an unemotional point of view. If this guy you were dating working at IBM would you be trying to call his boss to tell him what he did to you? I bet the answer is 99.999% NO. Just because someone is in the Army does not mean that the rules are different. This thing with you is a private issue and you need to deal with your boyfriend guy and leave the governement out of it. Yes it sucks, but this is called a learning experience for YOU, not an issue to be dealt with by the United States Army. The Army does not care and nor should they. You will quickly find out if you don’t listen to what I am saying that you will be told that it is your word against his and that will be the end of it. Redirect your anger to something else more productive because this is going to be a lost cause for you big time. The bitter woman things looks horrible on everyone who wears it so take it off and get on with your life and next time do better research on the person you get involved with. I have seen this same situation play out so many times and I have never seen a single thing happen to anyone involved.
The fact that you can go from love to hate so fast kind of indicates there are other factors here you are not mentioning.
I believe part of “honoring marriage” means not having sex outside of marriage. Kind of old fashioned I know, but you must have some reason to be so mad at this guy. If you guys do everything a married couple does without getting married, the man gets his cake and eats it too. Why buy shoes if you can wear them for free?
But if you must “do something” you can report it to his commanding officer. However, they will probably not do anything about it unless you yourself are in the service.
They only care about such activities if it harms the good order and discipline of the service. If you were in service and this so upset you it caused your duty performance to go down and caused you to seek mental health help, they probably would do something. But if you are just a civilian and his behavior has no impact on him or his unit, they will probably just tell him to knock it off.
I would suggest you just walk away and take it as a learning experience. Next time when you start dating a guy, ask him flat out if he is married.
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Thats funny because I am in the same situation…only i am pregnant by this man….and so is his WIFE!!!
he is soldier not a priest…
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if you want report, go to local church and tell them how you
did PRC with him…
they now what to do next