Dontdatehimgirl.com…..Should I do this?
Question by Just Me: Dontdatehimgirl.com…..Should I do this?
I like to browse that site sometimes, just to see if anyone I know ever pops up. For individuals who never know, dontdatehimgirl.com is a web site where any lady can go and post warnings about a man. The total name is listed, along with cities and states that they have lived in. They then create a paragraph telling about the guy (for instance “He has ten children that he does not assistance.”)
While browsing final night, I came across a familiar name of a guy that I knew in substantial school. We weren’t close buddies, we had more of a flirty relationship. However, he is on this page and an individual has explained some extremely nasty factors about him. I take place to know that he has an active Myspace page. Would you believe it would be weird if I wrote to him and stated “Hey this is Nikki from substantial college….I saw your name on this web site and believed you should know about it?” Or should I retain my nose out of it? Again, it says some fairly nasty factors!
By the way, we have not observed each other in nearly ten many years.
Okay, assume the shoe is on the other foot and someone was going online saying that you were a cheater who had an STD that you needed to spread to everybody. Would you not want somebody to let you know that there someone was out trashing your name? Irrespective of what is going on in this man’s daily life, I do not consider that the world wide web is a spot for some bitter woman to say hateful items about someone else. Just my viewpoint. If someone did it to me I would want to know..
Best answer:
Answer by biminibigblue
If you have not witnessed him in ten many years, then you have no thought what he is like nowadays. People things could all be totally genuine. I’d mind my business.
What do you feel? Answer under!
Need To Report Your Ex?
stay out of it
no
alot can change in 10 years….just dont get involved in that mess….really….dont.
I don’t think it would be weird to write to him on Myspace. You could just say hello and let him know that he has been listed on the other site. Who knows, perhaps it is true but at least he will be aware that he is listed there and he has the right to do something about it.
As you don’t know for sure that he’s not some mad rapist or something and whoever posted it has first hand experience of dating this guy, I would leave it well alone. You cannot say for sure that he’s not had say a head injury or trauma that could have changed his personality and he could be a danger to women?
yes….
do him the favor
I’d let him remain in blissful ignorance. Maybe he earned those negative comments, maybe he didn’t, but unless the web site gives rebuttal space (Hey that’s a good idea…) there’s nothing he can do about it.
I’m all in favor of truth and honesty, except when it causes distress for no good purpose.
Wonder if there’s a letmetellyouaboutmyexwife.com….
That’s a fairly difficult situation. My first reaction was to stay away from it, but when I looked at it from the shoe-on-the-other-foot perspective, I would want to know also. It might well be true, of course, as you haven’t seen him in so many years, but there’s also the chance it isn’t and this is just a bitter ex. So, if it were me, I would tell him, yes, particularly given that you were on more than ‘hello’ terms with each other.
I might just have to have a peek there. Something you could do is email him and tell him you think he should have a gander at it, but don’t say why.
I wouldn’t mention who you really are, but I would tell him. He needs to know about it, even if it is true, but you don’t have to let him know who you are. Just say you used to know him.
I would definetley tell him. You could protect his feelings
You should let him know. Even if it is true, he would want to know.
My fiancee has accused me of being a pedophile and STD carrier, (which, is an achievement for a virgin), and I kindly let her know that if I didn’t love her so much, that she would be in an ICU for even hinting that, and advised that she doesn’t say it to anyone else in London.
Incidently, that website is illegal, as it infringes the 1984/1998DPA, so for legal reasons, you best keep your distance from it.